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Family background

Societal messages

  • “Men are in control; you have no choice but to obey."
  • “A woman’s place is in the home."
  • "A woman stands by her man, no matter what."
  • "Marriage is for life; children need a father and mother."
  • "It’s the woman’s responsibility to hold the marriage together."
  • "Divorce is a personal failure."

Moral dilemmas

Theological dilemmas

Fear: it keeps people from seeking change.

Staying is a known condition; leaving is an unknown.

Fear of revenge


Emotional: it keeps pulling people back.

There are mixed messages: a love-hate feeling.

Economic: any loss of income will alter their standard of living. Most people cannot afford the loss of income.

Learned helplessness

  • When someone is repeatedly abused, they begin to believe they can do nothing to stop it.
  • The abuse continues despite their attempts to stop it.
  • They become passive and depressed and feels powerless to control their life.
  • They give up and loses their ability to think ahead and make plans for their safety.

A person loves their partner. They live for the "good times" in between the abuse.

A person hopes their partner will change. After the battering occurs, they talk, the abuser says they're sorry, and the victim is sure they’ll change.

Denial is a defense mechanism to ignore the reality of a situation or the need to leave.

  • “My partner didn’t mean it.”
  • “My partner was under pressure from his job."
  •  “My partner's father used to beat them.”
  • “My partner needs understanding.”
  • “My partner had a little too much to drink.”
  • “My partner promised me they wouldn’t do it again.”
  • “My partner loves me.”

Lack of support. Without support from friends, family, co-workers and community resources, people often stay trapped in abusive relationships

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