How to Help Your Children Deal with
the Effects of Domestic Violence
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Make time to give your child individual attention every day. Even a
few minutes makes a big difference.
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Initiate conversation about the violence and let them know it is okay
to talk about emotional or physical abuse they have seen or heard.
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Make sure to tell your children the violence is not their fault.
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Support your children in their range of feelings toward the abuser and
do not “badmouth” your partner in front of the children.
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Tell them that abuse is wrong at any time.
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Encourage your children to be involved in community activities to help
them feel less isolated, e.g. music lessons, school sports.
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Make and practice safety plans with your children.
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Use methods of discipline that are non-violent, e.g. grounding, time-out.
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Set loving, yet firm and consistent limits. This will help your children
feel safe and know what to expect.
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Maintain consistent routines at home. This will help your children feel
safe and know what to expect.
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Reduce your children’s exposure to violent toys, television, video
games, etc.
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Talk with your teens about healthy relationships and sexuality.
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Take time out for yourself when you are feeling overwhelmed. Some examples
are calling a friend, taking a bath, or writing in your journal.
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Give your children lots of love, kindness, and affection.
Domestic
Violence
